Oh totally agreed. I think that the idea of "chivalry" is so rooted in misogyny that it's nearly inseparable. Women are charged with not only bowing to chivalry but being the gatekeepers of purity (But not when the white knight expects us to panty drop)
The objectification of men is something that's talked about a lot in sexuality circles. I think that a lot of society is so entrenched in who the cis gendered straight male sexualizes (different than sexuality) that it's an affront to deviate from the norm.
My girlfriend said it best once, she doesn't like it when people hit on her after she tells them she is gay or committed because that puts their sexualization of HER over her sexuality.
And to the straight male that is tipping their power balance. How dare someone ignore THEIR sexuality?! They don't WANT that attention.
Yet they do that to women daily.
Homophobia also displays this societies hatred of the "feminine". A documentary that you may like is called "Beautiful Daughters" it's about Male to Female transgendered people and the comment was made there that they were not assaulted because of their sex, but it was their femininity that was being assaulted. To be female is the crime.
Self evaluation can only go so far. We have to stop this idea that something being "girly" is "bad". It's a hard fight to do, but there are a lot more of us yelling it than there were even five years ago.
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Date: 2011-08-28 04:13 pm (UTC)The objectification of men is something that's talked about a lot in sexuality circles. I think that a lot of society is so entrenched in who the cis gendered straight male sexualizes (different than sexuality) that it's an affront to deviate from the norm.
My girlfriend said it best once, she doesn't like it when people hit on her after she tells them she is gay or committed because that puts their sexualization of HER over her sexuality.
And to the straight male that is tipping their power balance. How dare someone ignore THEIR sexuality?! They don't WANT that attention.
Yet they do that to women daily.
Homophobia also displays this societies hatred of the "feminine". A documentary that you may like is called "Beautiful Daughters" it's about Male to Female transgendered people and the comment was made there that they were not assaulted because of their sex, but it was their femininity that was being assaulted. To be female is the crime.
Self evaluation can only go so far. We have to stop this idea that something being "girly" is "bad". It's a hard fight to do, but there are a lot more of us yelling it than there were even five years ago.